![]() “If you feel your crush gives you attention, discover how your desire to be connected and affirmed in your current relationship is lacking and start working on that,” Kederian explains. If this is the case, Kederian recommends working on increasing the connection and attraction in your current relationship. If you feel like you might be more attracted to your crush than your partner, she suggests that it could be a case of the-grass-is-greener and fantasizing about what you don’t have. Instead, try to understand where the feelings are coming from. If you’re already in a relationship and develop a crush, Kederian recommends not judging your feelings. How to deal with a crush you don’t want depends on whether you’re the one with the crush or being crushed on, and why you don’t want it. You can’t help how or when you feel the feels and who you do or don’t feel them for. What if you don’t want to have a crush at all?Ĭut yourself some slack you’re only human. Regardless of the type of partnership you’re in - whether an open arrangement or monogamous commitment - acting on a crush without considering your partner and honoring any mutually agreed upon boundaries or commitments is a jerk move.īe upfront about your feelings and intentions before acting on them. If either one of you is with someone else, acting on your feelings is going to leave some collateral damage. You need to consider your partnerships, if any, before you act on your crush. If one of you is involved with someone else Flirt and see how they respond, ask them to get together outside your usual shared setting, or just put your feelings out there, if you’re so bold. If they’re receptive, you can be as direct as is comfortable for you. If you know each other and your interest isn’t coming entirely out of left field, you can be more direct. This is also important because it gives you time to get to know the real them - not the version of them you know based on creeping their socials. Give them a chance to get to know you, assuming they want to, of course. Avoid ambushing them with your feelings and wants. ![]() Whether you’re hoping for a romantic relationship, new BFF, or a business collab, you want to take it slow. If crushing from afar on someone you don’t know personally ![]() That depends on things like how (or if) you know your crush, and how acting on it aligns with your current situation - like your partnerships, if any, or your job if it’s a work crush, and so on. What if you want to act on it - what should you do? A person who has a crush on you may subconsciously adopt your behaviors and mannerisms when with you because they’re genuinely engaged in the interaction and want to feel more connected. Mirroring is believed to be a sign of interest. They ask and revealĪccording to a 2014 study, asking questions and revealing information are signs of attraction.īonus if they’re doing it sincerely and with attention, which anyone who has a genuine interest in you - romantic or otherwise - will do during conversation. If you’re on their mind, chances they’ll mention your name in conversations to mutual friends and anyone else who’ll listen. “Mention-itis” may not be a recognized medical condition, but we tend to mention the object of our crush a lot. If it happens consistently, they probably want to get to know you better. Think: taking the empty seat at your table in the break room or joining your group for happy hour. We’re talking going out of their way to be in close proximity to you. If they’ve got dilated pupils every time they see you, aren’t running screaming or obviously under the influence, they might be crushing. It happens when your sympathetic nervous system kicks, but can also be caused by stress, fear, or booze and drugs. Pupils grow larger when we see something that excites us, like a person, a puppy, or a snazzy pair of shoes. If you consistently notice any of the signs below from someone, it *might* indicate that they’re crushing on you romantically or platonically: Their pupils dilate Keep in mind it’s easy to mistake kind or respectful behavior as interest when looking for signs through the rose-colored glasses of someone in the throes of a crush. There are some signs, which, according to science, are linked to attraction, but no absolute telltale sign that someone’s crushing on you.
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